Things I know I can't have
Why is it I always want the things I know I can't have?
I've been hanging out a lot with a certain member of the opposite sex. He is great. He keeps me in stitches. He is very cute and I thought he might have been digging on the Allison. To my dismay, I received a text message this morning, "I've kinda stated seeing someone. I hope you aren't mad at me. That's why I've been so difficult."
"I'm the queen of chill, remember? It makes me happy when my friends are happy. Next time, tell me so I don't waste a Friday night on something that isn't going to happen."
Damn. Square freakin' one.
I know you probably hate reading about my laments and mis-luck with men. So starting now I will no longer blog about this. a) it's not attractive b) there are better things to write about like the fact that I dropped my phone this morning c) I still feel that men don't want to get to know me for Allison.
If I'm wrong on any of these points please let me know via a secure way ie. phone calls or email. If there are pople that want to get to know me for the no bull, wacky, music loving individual I am, please hook me up.
I'm also sending this into the blog void "unkempt hair, five o'clock shadow, height and blue eyes." Oh...and knowledge of modern music.
posted by Creativity Escapes Me at 13:25
10 Comments:
"I know you probably hate reading about my laments and mis-luck with men. So starting now I will no longer blog about this."
What? Hate reading your laments? I'm doubtful of that, you've got some great stories and analyses of situations. Plus, I felt awesome about the fact that I had remembered to extract $20 from my account prior to my last date.
Wait...Allison likes modern music? Who knew?
20:32
Hmmm. Where to start?
I know you probably hate reading about my laments and mis-luck with men
Are you serious? We love living vicariously through your stalled love life.
it's not attractive
Maybe not, but it's endearing, and reminds all of us that life isn't a screenplay.
there are better things to write about like the fact that I dropped my phone this morning
Nah. Your dating misadventures are MUCH more interesting than a dropped phone.
I still feel that men don't want to get to know me for Allison
They're men. What do you expect? Our brains are wired differently to yours, which means the expectations are different. Ultimately they also want to find "the one", settle down, have a family etc... it's just the way they go about it that's clueless.
Your challenge, Miss Allison, is to manage that cluelessness for long enough that get past the groping thing. (Eventually, they will.)
Actually, you have two challenges... that one, and another, which is to pick the right guy to be attracted to in the first place. The second is possibly far more difficult than the first.
17:46
I concur. Think about it. When you're looking for something, its always in the last place you look, right? The only reason that's true is because you have no reason to keep looking.
The same is true here. Eventually you will find someone. Its not as if you're a failure of a person because a potential romance didn't work out. No one thinks that because we've all been in that boat. (If not, then shame on them for not living.)
Trial and error can be a huge pain, but that's really the only way to go about this sort of thing.
I don't agree with Chester in that you have to put up with a "groping" stage, though.
08:55
I will see if I can find someone for you. I have lots of friends.
14:11
Ah... language is such a fickle thing, and the understanding is always with the reader, not the writer...
So to avoid confusion vis-a-vis advice dispensed... I didn't suggest Allison had to "put up with" the groping thing, which would imply some sort tacit acceptance. Not at all. I merely suggested she needed to keep them hanging around for long enough to get over it.
They all get over it sooner or later, and how long it takes them isn't a measure of their suitability as a potential partner (those who aren't suitable don't stick around), it's a measure of their cluelessness at the courting ritual.
15:54
I agree with Chester. Sorry, Laverna. This is why I've needed to keep my lips to myself until the third real date.
19:10
There's also a difference between mindless groping and testing the romantic waters once a trust, if preliminary, has been established.
Allison rules and it's a shame not everyone in this world has the chance to spend time with such a fun, FUN, honest, selflessly generous, genuine, complex and intelligent person. I was talking about Allison just now, of course.
22:03
Stop.
23:21
Gatsby. Bring them on.
21:53
Also, these dating misadventures all have a certain flavor to them. I.e. you live in Utah, date Utah guys, and so your dating misadventures have a purely Utah after taste. I'm all about you moving to Denver. (Am I workin' the "Ashley is lonely w/o her friends here card" enough?) Anyway, these are normal misadventures for everyone. You should be having this strange experiences b/c they make you grateful for that rockin' guy you will someday meet. Laverna is right with her "When you're looking for something, its always in the last place you look" comment. You may end up falling in love with a guy, whom you've known for years, but never thought about in a romantic sense b/c you needed to go through all the losers before your eyes were opened. Fear not dearest friend! I too am going through the same issues. And seriously Gatsby, I too am freaking hott, hook me up as well!
21:59
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